Benefits Of Stepping Into Responsibility

     Taking responsibility involves noticing the connections between events, especially those that happen three or more times, which indicates a trend.  It allows you to open to discovery over and over and to reset the juicy quotient of your close relationships.

     For example (this is a true story from years ago), I broke one of my husband’s favorite glasses, then remembered that I accidentally sat on his sunglasses recently and also cracked a glass vase on his desk.  I immediately started wondering about the possible connection between that and the feeling of distance I’ve had. Almost immediately, bing, I realize I haven’t stepped into responsibility for the decisions we’d been talking about: moving, re-arranging our lives and practices. Instead, I’d been not-so-secretly angry but concealing it, so of course it “broke” through.  My breath deepens and I re-commit to sharing my anger and fear about the unknown. I spontaneously begin wondering about what I want, start listening to his desires and opening a space for both of us to co-create together.

     If you want to get smarter, juicier and more interesting to be around, start noticing repeated patterns in your life and shake them up in a friendly way. Wonder about what the message is and how you could get it in an easier way (than, for example, breaking glasses).